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Talk
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on, it might be difficult to stay in this house because of all the stairs, but you have other options. Let’s talk about what those might be.”
5.Phrase your concerns as questions, letting your loved ones draw conclusions and make the choices. “Mom, do you think you
might want a hand with some of the housekeeping or shopping?”
6.Give your loved ones room to get angry or upset, but address
these feelings calmly. “I understand all this is really hard to talk about. It is upsetting for me, too. But it’s impor- tant for all of us to discuss.”
7.Leave the conversation open. It’s okay to continue the conversa- tion at another time. “Dad, it’s OK if
we talk about this more later. I just wanted you to start thinking about how you would handle some of these things.”
8.Make sure everyone is heard — especially those family members
who might be afraid to tell you what they think. “Susan, I know this is re- ally hard for you. What do you think about what we are suggesting?”
9.End the conversation on a positive note. “This is a hard conver- sation for both of us, but I really appreciate you having it.”
10.Plan something relaxing or fun after the conversation to remind everyone why you enjoy being a family. Go out to din-
ner, attend services together, or watch a favorite TV program.
These are just a few suggestions of things you, your loved
ones, and other family members can do to unwind after a difficult conversation.
Scenarios
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SCENARIO: Your loved one forgets to take her medicine repeatedly. (Alert the doctor first.)
SAY: “I’m worried that you forgot to take your medicine again. I spoke with your doctor, and he’s especially concerned about missing doses. He suggested we find a way prevent it from happening. I thought a professional caregiver would be really helpful. Let’s at least give it a try and see how you like it. Then we can talk about it and see if it’s something you want going forward.”
SCENARIO: Your elderly loved one is struggling to get dressed, whether it’s a fall or a misbuttoned shirt. You’ve realized they need help in the bedroom to get dressed.
SAY: “I’ve noticed you’re wearing the same clothes again. What
if wCoelogrost you a helper for theNmotoersn: ings — someone who can stop
by and help get you ready for the day? She could even do a load of
“Give your loved ones room to get angry or upset, but address these feelings calmly. “I understand all this is really hard to talk about. It is upsetting for me, too. But it’s important for all of us to discuss.”
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SCENARIO: You notice a high pile of dishes in the kitchen sink.
SAY: “I know you care about keeping your place clean and tidy. But your dishes have piled up again, and the kitchen’s getting dirty. I’ll help you get those done, but what if we explored getting someone in here to keep the dishes done and the place clean? We’d love to take that off your plate, and then everyone can feel good knowing your house is clean and the way you like it. Let’s at least give it a try and go from there.”
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